Make yourself a cuppa and get comfy as we dive into an exploration of family beliefs and values - powerful influences when it comes to plotting a path for ourselves through childhood and beyond
Welcome to the second instalment of Ancestry & Tarot - I'm so happy to have you here!
Whether you're a tarot newbie or something of a seasoned card slinger you're very welcome to pull up a chair, pop open a pack of cards and join us as we anchor into our roots in order to develop an empowered understanding of ourselves, our loved ones and those who came before.
Read on for details of today’s adventure and be sure to click on the video above to join me for a more detailed chitchat and examples of the activity ahead.
exploring beliefs and values central to our family
So far along our Ancestry & Tarot journey we've built our family tree with the cards, bringing us into greater awareness of family dynamics, the relationship we have with ourselves and the relationships we have with family members.
Today we're going to spend some time exploring family core beliefs and values. As we journey thought our early years we often adopt certain truths, principles and ideas of what is and isn't important from our parents, grandparents, siblings and other significant figures we come into contact with.
Such core beliefs and values - those that have a big impact on our mindset, perspective of ourselves and others, choices and pathways - are often adopted unconsciously, integrated without question and assumed to be true.
(NB: In this context we’re defining a belief as the acceptance of something as true, e.g. “life is always difficult for me” or “I can do whatever I put my mind to”; and a value as a principle or aspect of life upon which we place great importance, e.g., creativity, education, logic, independence, compassion, community).
Taking time to reflect upon such family beliefs and values provides us with an opportunity to sift through what we've maybe been carrying around with us for quite some time; to consider what does and doesn't align with where we are now as fully fledged adults, perhaps building new families of our own (even if we still sometimes feel sixteen on the inside. Just me?!)
Do such beliefs and values facilitate a sense of expansion, connection, possibility? Or do they perhaps feel somewhat restrictive, stifling, uncomfortable?
Of course, it's very possible we might experience a bit of both - those that resonate and align, and those that no longer do.
And it’s interesting to note that while there may be beliefs and values designed to be applicable to every family member, we might also be investing our energy in beliefs with an individual focus – labels such as “the lazy child” or “academic child”; labels perhaps unconsciously digested, internalised and believed.
Such values, beliefs and labels carried within can be incredibly powerful things, often directly shaping our external reality.
Keeping what calls to be kept, shedding what calls to be released
In today’s Ancestry & Tarot adventure (far more exciting sounding than ‘activity’!) we’ll be creating our very own statement of guiding core beliefs and values in alignment with who we are in this very moment.
We’re going to use the cards to build a visual map of both the family core beliefs and values we’ve experienced in the past – and perhaps still experience in the present – evaluating what fits and what we’d like to release, before turning our attention towards the values and core beliefs that absolutely resonate with us moving forwards, whether rooted in family history or discovered and integrated independently.
By crafting a personal statement of our guiding beliefs and values, those that support us in living in alignment when it comes to marrying our heartfelt desires and intentions with our choices and actions, we develop a clearer sense of where we are and where we're going - harnessing our creative power and rooting into a vision of expansion, growth and personal fulfilment.
Got your cards, a piece of paper and a pen? We’re good to go!
Evaluating family beliefs and values with the cards
Take a few deep breaths, get comfortable and begin by spreading your tarot cards face-up in front of you, pictures showing.
Divide your piece of paper into two columns: one titled ‘family’, the other ‘my thoughts’.
When you’re ready, begin jotting down any key core beliefs, values, principles that come to mind in the ‘family’ column when reflecting on your upbringing and on family dynamics in the past and present.
What guiding values and beliefs come to the forefront? Perhaps your parents and other family members each had/have specific beliefs/values that felt particularly influential or that really stood out to you during your childhood and throughout your lifetime so far.
Perhaps you agreed/agree without question, or perhaps there was/is tension at play between your perspective and that of a loved one’s.
As you note down your findings, survey your cards and see if you can find an image or two that seem to resonate with such a belief or value. This is a totally intuitive invitation – no need to worry if you aren’t versed in traditional card meanings! Go with what you can see, and with your intuitive impressions.
The ‘my thoughts’ column provides space to dive deeper into each belief/value. Feel free to use the following prompts, or explore your own questions and ideas – whatever feels comfortable for you.
- How has this belief/value played out in reality – have I witnessed its influence in certain events, situations, relationships, in the past or present, in any arena of my life?
- Can I identify possible roots of such a belief/value? Is this something my grandparents or previous generations share? Where might it stem from?
- Does this belief/value resonate with me? Does it feel expansive, encouraging, liberating, heartfelt, genuine? Does it fuel an alignment of my desires, intentions, choices, actions? Does it tie in with my life experiences, perspective and understanding of the world? Or does it perhaps feel restrictive, stifling, uncomfortable, inauthentic, limiting?
- Do I have evidence to support this belief/value? Is it something that makes sense to me? Does it feel good?
- Do I want to keep/release/adjust this belief/value? Do I want to offer and develop an alternative? How might I go about integrating it further/releasing it compassionately if I feel called to do so?
- Are there any other beliefs/values I’d like to call forwards that feel important to me?
Crafting a personal statement of guiding core beliefs and values
Turning your paper over, or on a fresh page, begin drafting your personal statement of guiding core beliefs and values, based upon your findings above.
Really consider the idea of alignment moving forwards – the core beliefs and values we integrate and operate within have a huge impact on the relationship between our intentions, desires and actions and on the way we perceive ourselves, our loved ones and the wider world around us.
If in doubt, ask yourself “are my chosen beliefs and values rooted in compassion and encouragement? Are they supporting me in living my very best life today?”
Give your statement time to settle and sink in before returning with fresh eyes for a final run-through.
If you have a family of your own you could always include your partner, children and any other significant loved ones in the belief and value setting process, ensuring a truly collaborative, inclusive experience.
Do take your time if you find such a process requires more than one sitting in order to explore things fully. There’s no rush! Your pace is the best pace at which to travel.
If you have any questions about today’s activity or about Ancestry & Tarot (or ancestry/tarot as separate subjects!) do feel free to get in touch as I’d love to experience this journey together and to connect more deeply along the way.
See you soon for our next adventure!
With love, gratitude and so much joy,
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DISCLAIMER: All information, guidance and advice given throughout Ancestry & Tarot is not equivalent to, or a substitute for, professional medical advice. You are advised to consult an appropriately qualified healthcare professional should you have any concerns about the nature of the activities shared throughout this series. Your health and wellbeing are paramount, sweet friend.