Make yourself a cuppa and get comfy as we explore honouring times of family transition with the help of the tarot
Welcome to the sixth instalment of Ancestry & Tarot – I’m so happy to have you here!
Whether you're a tarot newbie or something of a seasoned card slinger you're very welcome to pull up a chair, pop open a pack of cards and join us as we anchor into our roots in order to develop an empowered understanding of ourselves, our loved ones and those who came before.
Read on for details of today’s adventure and be sure to click on the video above to join me for a more detailed chitchat and examples of the activity ahead.
Honouring family transitions
So far along our Ancestry & Tarot journey we’ve constructed our family tree, explored family core beliefs and values, created a visual timeline of our life story so far, shared space with our inner child and explored healing a relationship with a loved one; bringing us into greater awareness of family dynamics, the relationship we have with ourselves and the relationships we have with our loved ones.
Today we’re going to focus on honouring times of family transition. When we take time to bear witness to changes and when we create space for heartfelt expression, either individually or as a family, we’re better able to understand and appreciate the endings and beginnings we’re journeying through.
Transitions in tarot, transitions in life
Transitions can include the death of a loved one as well as many other moments of shifting from one energy to another; be it children starting school, graduation from university, buying our first home, relocating.
There are infinite transitions we may experience as a family, and as such there are infinite ways in which we may choose to honour such times.
Tarot's Death card signifies an ending in our lives, a moment of transition in which something that once was will never be experienced in quite the same way again. The Tower indicates sudden change, perhaps unexpected transformation abrupt and shocking in its arrival.
Should we avoid truly embracing such a time, in terms of shying away from consciously deciding to be present within the shifts occurring, we may find that our initial emotions become somewhat stifled within, in need of expression yet unable to come to the surface to be witnessed and healed.
Avoidance might stem from a desire to protect our loved ones and convey a sense of calm amidst turmoil; or perhaps turning towards the reality of a situation means allowing ourselves to feel a pain we’d rather distance ourselves from for self-preservation.
Yet it is when we choose to face our experiences fully, when we choose to gift ourselves permission to feel whatever it is we feel – because it is ok to feel however you feel - that such transitions become easier to understand, manage and bless so that they no longer influence our thoughts and actions unconsciously but instead become part of our integrated whole.
Fortunately, we can decide at any point along our path to bring such emotions forwards and to express whatever we feel needs to be expressed in order for times of transition to be fully acknowledged, understood and integrated.
In tarot talk this is the time of The Star; a period of patient healing, acceptance and love.
Saying goodbye to Nonna’s house
During the summer my husband and I flew to Italy to visit his Nonna, who would soon be selling her home - a house my husband and his family had considered a home away from home for many years - and moving in with family nearby.
Helping Nonna sort through her belongings and hearing stories of her life, including stories of my husband’s Nonno who sadly passed away a year ago, made for an incredibly emotional two weeks.
It would have been easy, perhaps, to simply soldier through and hold back our tears rather than digging deeper into stories, asking questions and sharing memories.
Yet it felt important to mark the transition on the horizon as a family, confronting and exploring the idea that this would be the very last time we would visit Nonna’s house.
I decided to begin filming snapshots of conversations between Nonna and the family; filming during breakfast, during dinner, throughout the day. Being sure to capture every corner of every room and the words of all those who wished to share their thoughts on camera.
I sat with Nonna as she talked me through some of her most prized possessions, including notes from Nonno and photographs from generations past. I filmed and filmed and filmed, capturing snippets of family history, hilarious family interactions; laughter, joy, sadness, love. Such love underscoring everything.
And so we faced the changes lying ahead with compassion, courage and connection. Together as a family, both mourning the loss of the old and embracing the promise of the new.
Looking back on such video clips gives us a chance to remember what it was to stand on the edge of change as a family. How lucky are we to have such memories to return to whenever we choose.
Honouring transitions in a way that feels right for you
Today’s Ancestry & Tarot journey isn’t so much something prescriptive or a clearly defined step-by-step, but rather an invitation for you to explore the idea of honouring a moment of transition, either presently unfolding or in the past, in a way that feels right for you.
Perhaps that means holding sacred space for yourself, independently or with loved ones, allowing yourself to express whatever resides within your heart.
Perhaps it means putting together a photo album, filming a video or two, gathering family memories in some way.
Perhaps it means writing to or talking to a loved one and sharing whatever it is you feel called to share.
However you decide to bear witness, know that you are always supported in doing so by your Ancestors in Spirit, who are forever holding you in love.
It is safe for you to feel, sweet friend. It is safe for you to feel.
If you have any questions about today’s activity or about Ancestry & Tarot (or ancestry/tarot as separate subjects!) do feel free to get in touch as I’d love to experience this journey together and to connect more deeply along the way.
See you soon for our next adventure!
With love, gratitude and so much joy,
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DISCLAIMER: All information, guidance and advice given throughout Ancestry & Tarot is not equivalent to, or a substitute for, professional medical advice. You are advised to consult an appropriately qualified healthcare professional should you have any concerns about the nature of the activities shared throughout this series. Your health and wellbeing are paramount, sweet friend.