Make yourself a cuppa and get comfy as we share space with our inner child during a simple yet profound sacred ceremony – an opportunity for Little You to express her needs and for present moment You to offer gifts of insight, compassion and healing
Welcome to the fourth instalment of Ancestry & Tarot – I’m so happy to have you here!
Whether you're a tarot newbie or something of a seasoned card slinger you're very welcome to pull up a chair, pop open a pack of cards and join us as we anchor into our roots in order to develop an empowered understanding of ourselves, our loved ones and those who came before.
Read on for details of today’s adventure and be sure to click on the video above to join me for a more detailed chitchat and examples of the activity ahead.
Sharing space with your inner child
So far along our Ancestry & Tarot journey we’ve constructed our family tree, explored family core beliefs and values and created a visual timeline of our life story so far, bringing us into greater awareness of family dynamics, the relationship we have with ourselves and the relationships we have with family members.
Today we’re going to spend some time connecting with our inner child through a simple yet profound sacred ceremony, choosing to revisit a point in our childhood we feel called to explore.
As we journey through life we continue to carry with us all of the ages we’ve been in the past – newly-born-you, five-year-old you, sixteen-year-old you, and on and on until we reach the present day.
Our experiences during our formative years greatly shape and contribute towards our beliefs, thought patterns, perceptions, choices and experiences in early adulthood and beyond, often continuing to influence our lives with every year that passes.
Times in which our needs were or weren’t met may continue to reverberate as something of an echo, supporting us in feeling capable, loved, loving, confident, strong, or perhaps contributing towards more difficult feelings and sensations.
It’s incredibly empowering to realise that we can reach back and gift ourselves whatever it is we needed at the time if we feel we missed out on something vital – be it love, understanding, patience, an explanation or something else that fits.
The healing potential of inner child work
Our parents, carers and family members are very much human and therefore fallible, just as we are. We all operate within our own complex set of circumstances, experiences and understandings, and we aren’t always able to get things ‘right’ when it comes to tending to our needs and the needs of others.
It may be that you recognise that although those who raised you tried their best and gave you what they could, there were instances within which you were in need of something unavailable to you at the time – a need that has perhaps since remained unmet.
As adults we can choose to consciously share space with our inner child, inviting her to express herself and her needs now while offering healing gifts of insight, compassion and understanding in return.
Such ‘time travel’ really can have a magical effect on our lives in the present moment – when we consciously understand the possible roots of limiting or dysfunctional thought patterns, beliefs and behaviours we can begin to take steps towards dissolving the hold such patterns, beliefs and behaviours have on us today.
In listening to and tending to our inner child with compassion, patience and reassurance we can begin dismantling patterns that no longer serve us, dissolving obstacles that may have blocked our path for quite some time, and repairing those relationships that have perhaps suffered as a consequence of pain, disappointment or upset stemming from our younger years.
The following sacred ceremony is a chance to reach back with love and a willingness to hold space for ourselves at our most vulnerable.
When we recall just how young we once were – we still are! – it often becomes a little easier to speak kindly to ourselves and to see Spirit within. Such kindness can be incredibly transformative.
Inner child sacred ceremony
To begin, gather together your sacred tools: your trusty tarot cards, a candle if you have one to hand, a pen and notebook/sheet of paper, and a photograph of Little You – either taken at the age you’re going to revisit, or as close to that age as possible.
If you don’t have a photograph available, you can always visualise younger you or use a more recent picture.
Take a few long, steady deep breaths to help anchor into the moment, visualising a golden light of protection and love encircling you. You might like to call upon the Angels, your Guides and your Ancestors if you feel comfortable doing so.
As you light your candle and set it in front of you, imagine the flame calling forward you at every age you have ever been; one by one, from baby to child to adolescent to early adult and beyond, you now enter into sacred space together.
Spreading your tarot cards face-up, focus on the moment in time you feel called to revisit; the Little You you would like to share space with today.
Looking at the images in front of you, journey through the cards until you find a scene you feel resonates with the Little You you’re connecting with now.
As always, this is a totally intuitive practice – go with what feels right for you, in terms of characters, colours, scenery and the memories or emotions such images bring forwards.
Place your chosen card in front of you, next to your photograph, and imagine Little You stepping forwards to sit by your side.
When you feel ready, begin a dialogue with Little You; perhaps ask her if she has something she would like to say, a feeling or thought or need she would like to express.
It might be that she’s rather quiet or shy; if that’s the case, perhaps imagine sensing her thoughts, without the need for putting things into words just yet.
Consider what Little You needed at that moment in time – space to be heard? To be held? Her perspective to be validated? Words she wasn’t able to access or articulate? Reassurance? Love? Kindness?
You are able to give this to her now. Surveying your cards, intuitively select an image or images that you feel best represent the gifts you’re able to hand Little You in the present moment.
If you feel called to do so, begin writing down the conversation you’re having: the things Little You is keen to express and the gifts you would like to give her.
Consider also the impact her experiences have had on your life, and the impact they may still be having on your life now.
What might Present You need? Is there something Little You is able to offer? Perhaps a reminder of something you used to enjoy, or a childlike perspective on a situation that might help you break through confusion or doubt.
Write, reflect, ponder for as long as you need to. Take your time and go at a pace that feels comfortable.
When you sense it is time to bring your sacred ceremony to an end, thank Little You for visiting and reassure her that you’re always here for her to turn to and reach out to should she ever wish to in the future.
Likewise, Little You is always here for you to connect with should you wish to continue your inner child work from here.
As you extinguish your candle, imagine releasing with love and gratitude all of the Younger Yous who stepped forward to join you, knowing that they are always carried within.
Maintaining a connection with your inner child
You might like to keep your photograph of Little You close by, perhaps on your desk or by your bedside.
Check in with her every so often and send her loving thoughts; ask for her insight and advice should you be struggling with a situation; and remind yourself that you can offer Little You healing any time you feel called to do so.
And of course, you can visit Little You at different ages should you wish to repeat your sacred ceremony in future, or should you wish to connect in a different way.
Creating supportive, compassionate affirmations for Little You and Present You to exchange can be another really beautiful way of maintaining a connection.
When looking at your photograph, or perhaps when looking in the mirror (brushing your teeth? Perfect!) try saying “I love you”, “I’m so proud of you”, “you are safe”, “you are heard”, “you are worthy” or any other affirmations that feel comfortable.
Tarot’s Pages and inner child connection
The Court Cards of the tarot deck can point towards an aspect of the self during a reading (click here for a super speedy breakdown of the components of a tarot deck).
As the youngest members of the tarot family, the Pages represent the budding beginnings of learning how to utilise and harness the energy of their suit, whether Wands, Cups, Swords or Pentacles.
While we are all of course a unique blend of Court Card energies at any one time, it can be interesting to tap into each Page individually in greater detail when sharing space with our inner child.
If you’d like to find out more about each Page and how their energy often comes to the forefront during childhood and beyond, check out the first video in my Court Card Characters series, where we take a trip to ‘Court Card Kindergarten’ in order to get to know the Pages in detail:
If you have any questions about today’s activity or about Ancestry & Tarot (or ancestry/tarot as separate subjects!) do feel free to get in touch as I’d love to experience this journey together and to connect more deeply along the way.
See you soon for our next adventure!
With love, gratitude and so much joy,
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DISCLAIMER: All information, guidance and advice given throughout Ancestry & Tarot is not equivalent to, or a substitute for, professional medical advice. You are advised to consult an appropriately qualified healthcare professional should you have any concerns about the nature of the activities shared throughout this series. Your health and wellbeing are paramount, sweet friend.